Guest Lists are a nightmare.

I've contemplated just eloping so much over the past couple of months. I'm just sick of everything, and we haven't even told the extended family about the engagement yet.

I had to do something quite heartbreaking with our guest list, however. I had to remove one of my bridesmaids and her date from our guest list. Not because of any kind of falling out, but due to the fact that my future sister in law passed away in early October. I just now got the strength to remove her from the list. There's something completely heartbreaking about removing someone your own age due to a death. It's not like it was great grandma who had been sick for years. No, it was Li, who had just called us two days before to confirm plans for dinner and shopping.

I almost don't want to tell everyone else about the engagement now, because it feels like I'd be encroaching on people's time to grieve.

Any help?